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Know Your Worth: Why Understanding Your Value is Key in Relationships



As I sat speechless on the other end of the phone, his question replaying in my mind. "Do you know all that you bring to the table?"


In a society that often underestimates the power and strength of women, particularly single moms and navigating relationships, blended families or even if you're just stepping into the dating world, this question struck a chord deep within me. It wasn't just about listing skills or attributes; it was about recognizing my worth, knowing what wonderful children I have and refusing to settle for anything less than I deserved.


Embracing Your Strengths


Let's break it down ladies – what do we bring to the table? As a single mom, you are a master of multitasking, a pro at problem-solving, and a reservoir of unconditional love. Your journey has sculpted you into a resilient, compassionate, and independent individual. These qualities are not just commendable; they are invaluable.


Self-Reflection and Self-Appreciation


When faced with the question of what we bring to the table, it's not just about outward abilities but inner strength as well. Take a moment to reflect on your journey, your triumphs, your challenges, and most importantly, your growth. Understand that your value transcends materialistic offerings; it lies in your character, your integrity, and your unwavering spirit. Each of us has a story and speaking for myself, I can say I don't have any regrets. My road has been anything but streamline but I wouldn't be the woman or mother I am today without overcoming adversity and finding meaning even amongst the struggles.


Setting Boundaries and Standards


Knowing your worth is empowering, but asserting it is liberating. Establishing boundaries and standards in a relationship is not being demanding; it's asserting your self-respect and deserving nothing but the best. Don't be afraid to walk away from situations that diminish your light or compromise your values – your table is reserved for those who appreciate it.


The Myth of Settling


As single moms, we often face societal pressures and stigmas that suggest we should settle for less in the dating realm. Let's debunk this myth once and for all: settling is not an option. You are not defined by your past, your circumstances, or your relationship status. You are defined by your unwavering strength, your boundless love, and your infinite potential.


Embracing Your Journey


Your journey as a single mom is not a hindrance to finding love – it is a testament to your resilience and capacity to love fiercely. Embrace the complexities of your story, the highs, and the lows, for they have woven a tapestry of strength and beauty that is uniquely yours. Remember, the right person will not only see all that you bring to the table but will cherish it wholeheartedly.


So, the next time someone asks you if you know what you bring to the table, look them in the eye and say, "I bring a symphony of strength, a masterpiece of resilience, and a feast of love. I bring my whole self – unapologetically and authentically." Know your worth, embrace your journey, be authentic and trust that the right person will recognize what a gem you truly are. You are a force to be reckoned with, resilient and strong.


You are enough, worthy and irreplaceable.

"A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials." ~Lucius Annaeus Seneca



Hold your head high, set your standards higher, and watch as the world unfolds beneath your confident stride. Authenticity, honesty, strength, resilience, and love – these are the ingredients of your table. Serve them unapologetically and watch how love and life serve you in return. Be with people who know how precious you are and never gloss over your worth for anyone who can't appreciate the perfectly imperfect woman that you are.


xoxo,


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